You may have the desire and the knowledge, but do you really believe you deserve what you want?
When you think about what you want, do you find yourself coming up with reasons justifying why you can’t, or don’t have it? If this resonates with you, you may be being sabotaged by your subconscious programming.
As much as we may want more for ourselves, when our inner saboteur takes over, we will find reasons why we cannot or should not have it.
1. “Who am I to think I can do better?”
These subconscious saboteurs can show up in many forms. One of them is our sense of self-worth.
If we doubt we are good enough, it can really hold us back. The thing is, your beliefs form part of your template – something that determines what actions you will take. Telling ourselves that we are not enough, can be very demotivating, limiting our resolve to take action.
2. “It’s hard!”
Studies have shown that we adapt our preferences according to what we think is possible.
So, if we‘ve been hearing over and over again that something is hard or impossible to achieve, it is very likely that we’ll accept it as such, and resist challenging the status quo.
3. “I don’t have the energy to deal with it”
Our body and mind work as one and tiredness can often indicate that we have some inner resistance going on. Consciously, we know what we want to achieve but for some reason we are not going for it. We may feel like we lack umph as we are not focused on achieving what we truly desire. But just imagine what your life would be like if you did feel enthused, energised, and motivated towards your goals!?
4. “I’m not…”
When a child is born, it doesn’t think there’s anything lacking. It presents its needs without thinking about its limitations, belief system, past experiences, or possible shortages in the universe. A child asks and expects his needs to be met. Give yourself permission to ask!
5. “It’s out of my league”
Very often we have an idea of what we should look like or be like to attract the things we want. Whether the desires we have relate to our personal or professional life, we need to be in alignment with what we want to achieve. Does the emptiness of your bank account eat away at your confidence? Does it mean you cannot attract the partner you want, or high paying clients?
With all these elements in play, you may believe it’s hard to break free. The thing is, all these factors actually facilitate the perpetuation of the same life scenarios and can feel very convincing. However, giving up, or not even giving it a go, is not an option – it will just confirm your subconscious belief that it was not going to work in the first place!
The question is: how good are you willing to let your life become?